Masculinity

Masculinity

The nature of masculinity is aggressiveness expressed in combativeness and a desire to compete for dominance over other males, which comes from the male sex drive, in order to attract females and thereby have a larger selection of females with whom to mate and to fight for dominance in order better protect and provide for the womon he loves and his children. These instincts are translated into a desire to be protective toward all females, but most particularly toward his mate and children with an aggressive compulsion to fight against and destroy anything that is a threat or challenge to them and to take from other in order to give to them.
   Masculinity, though, is much more, it is a completeness of manhood, it is not just one side of a man, but includes masculine strength and gentleness, aggression and patratective love, it is all of the ways in which a man moves through his life, loves and serves femin and is found in all of the dimensions of fatherhood and fraternity.
   Masculinity is hardening and toughing a man's body, mind and emotions and gaining dominance over them. A man must conquer himself first and have total control over his body, mind and emotions; to be able to command, direct and use them to achieve greater performance in his pursuits. To a man, emotions are used to gain information in a detached and objective manner and then use those emotions to achieve determined goals.
Emotions can be used as fuel to power his performance and he often uses his emotions as a weapon in competition.
A man who cannot discipline and control his emotions cannot functionally effectively has a man.
   A man's role of always being patratective toward femin is the masculine desire to protect her femininity which allows her to live out her roles for herself, him, their children, family and society.
The natural desire of men to be combative toward other men but patratective toward femin, the drive to conquer and dominate his environment and to compartmentalize and regiment people and activities into a hierarchical structure and separate emotion from action are fundamental characteristics of masculine behavior.

Throughout human evolution men have been the hunters, warriors and providors, this has developed in men the ability to shut out all other things and focus to the exclusion of all else totally on a single objective. Men who are hunting must be able to shut out all other thoughts and focus exclusively on the hunt by single mindedly tracking the game until it is killed. Men in war must put aside everything else and totally detach themselves from any consideration of what they left behind at home and focus totally on the conquest of the objective. This behavior pattern is seen today in men who obsess on their careers and tend to forget about their wives and children and other social responsibilities, it is seen even in men who come home from work, sit down, start reading a newspaper or watching television and at the same time tune out everything else going on around him, even his wife and children. This is not his way of intentionally ignoring them or saying that he doesn't care, it is simply a natural masculine behavioral pattern. To overcome this he must take time out to concentrate all of his attention on his wife and children and tune out all of those other things. He must start putting his wife and children first, ahead of career, so he can give all of himself most of the time. Men must see that being a successful husband and father is the most important success in life.
   For these reasons men need to compartmentalize things, to put tasks and even roles with people into different compartments in their lives so that they can assign their time and energies to be able to focus completely on each one at the proper time.

When a man suffers a tragedy or is going through difficult problems emotionally, the thing that he needs to do is to step back from them emotionally, to distance himself from his own emotions in order to gain an objective rational perspective on his emotions and what is going on so as to sort them out and know how to use and direct them to solve the problems, to get over the tragedy and to put his emotions to effective and productive use. For him, often after suffering a tragedy, the worst thing he can do is talk about it and bring out those emotions which are like pouring fuel on a fire and will cause them to get out of control. Instead, he must distance himself emotionally from them in order to conquer his feelings and be the logical master of his own emotions. Only then can he talk about his feelings in a rational way that is detached, objective, controlled and directed toward a purpose. For many men who go through this, they find that the best thing to do is to go back to work or work even harder in order to take their minds off of their problems so that they can later come back to them or view them from a detached distance and face them in a more objective way.

Mind
Men have a mechalogical way of thinking, a disciplined, formulated thought process that is mechanically logical. Unlike with a femin who use her emotions as a guide, men reject emotions as a guide and act according to a logical framework, men place their faith in that framework to solve problems despite external appearances or feelings. To them the formula or the structure is the most important thing, the dominant law, and provides the only real way of solving problems.
Men can make their feelings whatever they want them to be, feelings are just external stimuli that should be used to gather information about the world around them, but should not be taken on face value, they should be placed in their proper context in an objective way and then after being reformulated through reason, a man's emotions should be changed by his will into what ever he wants them to be to fit his values, serve his interests and accomplish his goals.
Men firstly need a mental and emotional detachment from all things, to abstract their world into something that seems disconnected from themselves or anyone else so that each segment of a problem can be dissected and taken apart and placed in the proper compartment so that it can be reformulated into a disciplined logical order that can be used to construct a value system, perform a task and succeed in his goals and only after this to allow himself to get emotionally attached.
When electrodes are placed on a man's scull the images produced of the male brain* shows that only areas of the brain that are needed when a man is doing a certain task are activated, the imaging shows up a separate hot spots that flash on and off with little shared communication with emotional centers when not specifically experiencing something emotional, this is the physiological evidence of the tendency of men to concentrate on a specific task to the exclusion of feelings or other people and to compartmentalize things. This is in contrast to the female brain.

Social Roles
Men's roles as patratectors and providors for femin are lived out in the willingness of men to perform the hard labor jobs; to do the dirty work and to generally perform those daily tasks that provide the satisfaction to men of contributing his service to femin that allows femin the liberty to be feminine and return to men the affection and appreciation for that service.
   While femin are the moral and emotional leaders of society, men have the role as the disciplinary leaders and defendors of society. Just as men should respect emotional direction of femin, femin should respect the defendor role of men in being patratective of femin.
   A man's first duty is to fight to protect and defend femin from all harm, not just femin in his family, but all femin, everywhere. Any participation in war, which inevitably turns against civilians, by a man is treason against femin, the human family and Theius. Any aggressive or belligerent behavior toward femin or participation in combative activities or contact sports with females by a man cannot be tolerated and any male who does this is the enemy of the human family and must be destroyed by honorable men.
   Men have a duty to serve only good femin who live out their moral feminine roles in society and the family, any service or support for females in rebellion against their own femininity and normal femin is a betrayal of the human family and their duty as men.

Relationships
As men are oriented toward competitive performance, in relationships men look for others with whom to do things, to perform actions, to accomplish goals. In relationships with a femon, besides the obvious sexual needs, men often find meaning in the relationship based on common interests and the performing of activities. Men in their relationships, whether with other men or with femin tend to bond by performing actions together. In men's relationships, emotional feelings for a another person are not necessary for having a relationship; a partnership in business, teammates in sports, buddies, or even a sexual affair, need not be based on emotion, a man doesn't even need to like the other person with whom he is in a relationship, in fact if he finds satisfaction in the performance aspects of the relationship, he can stay in a relationship and function just fine with someone whom he doesn't even like. Though obviously, for a sexual relationship to be right there must be sincere love and caring from both partners.
   A man likes to be the chivalrous knight who champions the cause of his lady, he likes to have the opportunity to conquer things and to perform tasks for her. Men see their first duty in a relationship as one where he is supposed to perform actions and conquer challenges for her and most importantly to patratect her.

Gentlemanly Conduct
Men must be patratective in is everyday actions, being a gentleman at all times, respectful and considerate of femin. Common courtesies are a compliment of respect and a confirmation of a man's role toward femin. He must show consideration for her rights and identity at all times by not imposing or engaging in combative or aggressive behavior in a way that infringes on her rights nor should he engage in such conduct between other men in general society in the presence of femin because it interferes with proper civil conduct. Any such conflict between men, like fighting, cursing or aggressive behavior must be strictly disciplined and directed between in men in controlled restricted spaces.
Likewise, gentlemen should not impose sexually explicit language on femin unless it is clearly appropriate and all femin present have consented to it. As femin must always be in control of a relationship and where it is going, they must always exert control over men's sexual behavior and demand compliance from men in society. Men have an obligation to always be aware of and respect femin's wishes in disciplining their sexual desires so as to avoid sexual harassment or even embarrassment to femin. Gentlemanly conduct is always and expression of respect and men should try to always make femin feel safe in their presence.
The common courtesies are a way of showing respect and appreciation and they help to avoid improper behavior and it allows femin to remain in control.

Husband - Providor
A husband's role is being the providor so that his wife is at liberty to stay home and take care of the children or if they don't have children or the children or in school, to pursue her own career. It is necessary for this as a femon will not be able to work during child birth and should put aside everything else to take care of her children while they are little. This requires that the man be the providor out the basic needs of femin and the family and provide the support during this time for the mother so that she may fulfill her most important work.
Its men's role in general to provide the extra support to society so that all mothers may take the time off during child birth and to be able to take care of their small children full time. In addition men should seek work sharing programs and contribute to family aid so that mothers who have to work for financial reasons may take extra time off or may adjust her schedule to make it more convenient for the family. Men should also try to help single femin, particularly single mothers, by performing some roles and jobs that would be preformed by a husband, such as; doing the heavy outdoor work around her house, doing some repairs, being watchful and patratective over her house and any other need she may request or that he notices and asks her consent to provide.
So that even men who are single still have a duty to be providors for femin in general so that they are able to care for the home and family first.

Father
If a man presumes to be successful, he must be a good father first and be more devoted to his wife and children than anything else. After providing love and guidance to the children, which comes from both parents, the particular responsibility of a father is being the disciplinarian and enforcor of the family. While both father and mother must concur on the rules of the family and how children should be disciplined, it is the father's role to dish out the punishment and provide the stern and sometimes immovable resolve to enforce the rules of the family, which of course comes with the full consent of the mother. A father should be the driving force of the family and should, like a coach, see that the children perform their responsibilities, in school, shores in the home, community responsibilities, etc. and sometimes prod them along.

Organizations
Men need a disciplined structure under which to operate where there are clearly defined roles and tasks and a competitive hierarchy that, at the same time provides the direction and leadership and also provides that incentive to compete toward clear objective goals.
The purpose of male only activities is for boys and men to develop their own personal qualities within group responsibilities to other members of the fraternity, have just one female in that group and they would lose the masculine integrity and camaraderie between the men and would not be able to behave as a masculine corps, the inclusion of just one female fundamentally changes the nature of the group. Fraternal organizations are for the masculine development of men and defining their relationship to femin as a whole, serving femin and learning their duties to other men and to femin, so in the larger society men and femin can join together in moral and honorable ways in their proper roles within the family and society.

Business and Professions
As in all pursuits men see business and other professions as a competition, a battle for dominance.
They use their occupation as a means to engage in a competition against other men in the battle to become the dominant buck. To be socially responsible, men must arrange their combative competition in business in a way that is organized as a limited fraternal civil or private economic competition. Men have a responsibility to temper their combative urges in the public economy and to participate cooperatively in an excellative economy which is acceptable to femin and helps create an environment of service to the customers which benefits everyone. On the job, any competition between men must be strictly limited to men with public job opportunities and advancement granted according to excellative merit.
Men like to be known by their job or title, they like to be identified with their functions and accomplishments to the point where a man's job becomes his identity, think about; farmer, rancher, sailor, trucker, construction worker, longshoreman, fisherman, men get their identity from these occupations and the work they do to the point that it becomes a part of their character and they begin behaving in ways that may be said to be a typical way that a sailor or farmer behaves or looks at the world and a blue collar worker is not just a job it's a socio-cultural identity with its own attitudes and values. Men internalize these activities and draw their identities from them.

Competition - Fighting - Combat
Sports, business, arts, academics and other pursuits.
Aggression itself is a masculine behavioral characteristic fueled by testosterone, competitiveness which is a desire to the beat out and beat down the competition, to take from others to gain more power and prestige for himself and combativeness, the lust for battle, the desire to fight, a pugnacious personality are expressions of this, which have as its purpose dominance for power. The competition for power naturally creates a hierarchy of rank where those who have achieved power either, subjugate the losers or gain supporters who go along with the one in power in hopes of gaining greater power themselves over others; it is one in which men are either subordinated under the dominant figure or remain challengers who continue to fight the champion for future dominance.
   The male tendency of aggressiveness and combativeness arising from the male sex drive to compete for dominance and to win the attention of females for mating must be controlled responsibly by men, tempered by law and respect for femin's rights. The masculine behaviors and institutions of hierarchical power government and fighting to gain political and social dominance within a competitive culture must be kept strictly between men without imposition on femin.
   To a man most pursuits in life are battles, life itself is battle, his job is a battle, a constant fight for dominance, a competition against other men, even against himself. To a man, to fight and fight well is the primary thing, in the fight he realizes his true character.
   Desmond Morris(5) explaines that: "The Primeevil male predisposition to plan complicated hunting strategies has been transformed into many unusual modern pursuits." [Exhibited in the male obsession with competitive sports and violent video games that often simulate war and hunting.] "Activities having no survival value in themselves but symbolically providing the men involved with a deep satisfaction of fulfilling ancient inborn urges."

Politics
The traditional political system that men have created is one of waging war for dominance over a people and using them to wage feudal wars against other nations for greater power. This system can no longer be tolerated in our world. Men must arrange to keep their political battles and their system of political hierarchy based on fighting for power and dominance strictly to themselves as a competition between men. The public government is a public service institution in which men and femin can cooperate in serving and protecting human rights in a way that is respectful of feminine participation and contributions. Men's political battles must be limited to civil or private institutions which have no power whatsoever over other people, but is a pursuit for power and dominance only over those men who choose to compete within it and keeping all activities and consequences of it strictly to themselves.

Police
Policemen's duties involve protecting everyone's rights, particularly in serving cooperatively with policefemin in protecting them so that they may perform their duties for society in securing the right of men and femin both. That means that policemen have a duty to set a moral standard in supporting feminine roles in the police for the sake of public service and for the support of the roles of men and femin in society.
Policemen's particular duty is to fight criminals by sometimes when necessary using violent physical force and in confronting dangerous situations while protecting policefemin so she can do her job.

Dienthorian
It is the moral duty of men to be willing to fight to defend femin and children.
Men are physically, mentally and emotionally best suited for combat responsibilities, of course most importantly is the responsibility of fighting for femin and children and defending the home, family, community, nation and government.
In intentionally organized disciplined combat men must restrict their fighting to themselves and in Dienforcade operations men must avoid causing civilian causalities.

Men must be free to join together in masculine activities, competitive sports, Dienthorian training and other combative activities in order to form fraternal bonds that clearly define, honor and support masculine behavior and roles.
Men's relation to femin as patratectors must always be respected in all institutions and activities.

* This I observed on the Discovery Channel program "Brain Sex".
5 - The Human Sexes - Desmond Morris (documentary on the Discovery Channel)

by Dean Sullivan