Femininity

Femininity

The nature of femininity is the peaceful (pacifemative) life giving, life nourishing and motherly-nurturing (mammurturing) spirit that seeks to harmonize herself with her environment through shared, cooperative relationships that develops a close communion with others and the things which she experiences, with a personalizing of emotion, action and expression, (femation) in which she desires to share a symbiosis with people and her world and to live in a concordance between herself and all things in her environment (peasensia). She strives for a peaceful life where she mollifies men's combative nature into a cooperative relationship that forms the basis of the relationship between men and femin and the family.
   Femininity is all that a femon is, her nature, mind, behavior, roles, ways of living, working and doing expressed in her own way. To be soft and gentle, trusting, empathetic, a susceptibility of the heart, delicacy, refinement, sentiment, sweetness of manners, are characteristics of femininity.
   The desire of femin to create sharing, peaceful environments in harmony for the purpose of matching people together in caring relationships and in attracting a man in a way which mollifies his combative nature into a cooperative and protective one which allows her the trust and freedom to seek harmonious environments, create an emotional symbiosis with other people to which she has a relationship, get married and have children and be mammurturing is characteristic of femininity.
   Femininity is the alluring and receptive character of a life exchange in which she desires to express a beauty, based on gentleness and goodness, that endearingly-pleases (empleasis) others in all that she does so as to form caring relationships of shared feelings in which she can receive love which is taken into her heart to nourish her emotions (femotion) to give life to her creations and relationships, this is the essence of femininity.
   Femininity is delicacy of feeling and being, she cultivates a softness, a gentleness that is woven as a delicate and intricate embodiment of her feelings. Feminine sensitivity (esensitivia) is not merely sensing the external world, it is a sensitivity that is deeply rooted in a life creating being where she conceives creations, expressions and actions (pregestation) that she treats as though it were a fragile life that must receive constant care through a super sensitivity to its needs, it must be fed and mammurtured through all stages and continually maintained by the pursuit of a delicate balance whose main purpose is to stimulate symbiotic sensitivity (esensitivia). This delicate sensitivity (esensitivia) she expresses in the maintenance of herself as a femon, how she presents herself, her manners, her relationships with others and those things that she creates as well as the actions she performs.
   Femin exemplify softness, sweetness, kindness, the ability to relate well to others, they value people above things. Softness and gentleness (fegentalia) in a femin is showing that she is comfortable with herself so that, unlike with a man where softness is weakness, she has extensive strength of character (estrenavia) that allows her to live as a soft and gentle being who is in tune with her own feelings and the feelings of others without any barriers, emotional walls or callused toughness, that she is strong enough (estrenivia) and trusting enough of herself to allow herself to be soft and gentle (fegentalian) in receiving that which she would allow herself to experience or be given.
   Femin need an almost constant confirmation of emotional support. As she provides constant emotional support to herself, in relationships she also needs that from others. She needs the man that she loves to tell her and show her that he loves her, it's not enough that she knows this and that he doesn't say it very often because he knows that she knows he loves her, so why bother to say it. But to her the absence of expressing the love, is like the absence of love, she needs to live on the emotional exchange of shared communications and to receive the actions of his love, not just in bed but constantly in their daily lives in the actions that he performs specifically for her to show his love and support to her and most of all to express that love.
   In her friendships and other relationships she also needs a constant conformation of its meaning and expression of its feelings. When it comes to her identity and rights in society she needs and desires the positive action of support, encouragement and the active participation of confirming the roles of others in being supportive to her as a femon and in upholding her rights and showing that other people and society in general is concerned about her personally and that her rights are not just something that is enshrined in a document but is upheld and nourished with the support of a society who cares about her wellbeing. For her the absence of this constant support which confirms the loyalty and caring of others is like the absence of the respect for her rights. She needs the constant opportunity for feminine expression along with the acceptance and appreciation of what she has to give to others.
   Throughout the course of human evolution females have had to manage many different activities at the same time, in traditional societies, femin have had to take care of their children while at the same time, cooking, cleaning, gathering food, getting water, sewing and performing other tasks while, additionally, managing the activities of the family and other social groups which involve constant communication with its members. Thus femin have developed the ability to manage a lot of different things at once and still maintain the ability to stay in tune with the needs and feelings of others and keep a sense about her environment. Females have had to evolve the ability because, when performing any job while watching children she can't allow herself to lose touch with or forget about watching over and taking care of her children and being sensitive to the needs of her children, if femin couldn't do this then children, who in the past living in the wilderness were completely vulnerable, would frequently be the victim of accidents or wild animals. This ability to work and at the same time remaining sensitive (esensitivia) to the feelings and needs of others and manage activities with personal communications is a great quality that femin have which can be carried into politics, business and other areas, but of course must not be at the expense of sacrificing her children which could only come by her forcing herself to ignore the needs of the child that she knows is crying for her while she gives herself to the functions of a soulless corporation.
   Femin like to endearingly-please (empleasis) others in a way that doesn't merely please in making a positive impression, but creates a personal emotional symbiotic bond by being empleasing to herself and others. This desire gives great satisfaction and self worth to her which is not only doing for others but it is setting the stage of creating an interpersonal exchange in which her desire to emplease creates a reciprocal relationship which gives back to her qualities that nourishes herself so as to allow self growth which is to be expressed more extensively throughout wider relationships and experiences. Of course a femon must emplease herself first of all and in all that she does. In the empleasing of herself, as long as it's not self centered, results in being empleasing toward others and it is really most important to be empleasing than to merely try to please others. The nature of this is in the conjugal symbiosis of her wanting to inspire and touch the heart of others that leads to giving back to her in the opportunity to have a relationship which can she can continually give life to and care for as a mother caring for a child.
   She wants to emplease the man she loves so that he will respond to her and give the kind of love that she desires. The most important thing for herself is in being empleasing in a way that is good for herself and that a man must respect and love her for her own qualities. She desires to mother the man that she loves, to take care of him and provide to him all emotional support, she desires simply to make him happy and herself happy in the doing, and in the open and trusting giving of herself sexually in which she must trust in him to give back to her that which she needs, only when it is reciprocal is it meaningful love.
It is not simply pleasing but a spirit of being empleasing that is distinctly feminine.

Mind
Emotion (femotion) is a femon's guide to reason which is confirmed by logic. A femon is ruled by her heart, her emotions lead the way in helping her to make the right decision for herself and others. Before she makes a decision she must ask herself how she feels about it and after she makes the decision and while carrying through with it she continually asks herself how she feels about what she is doing. When working with others she needs to understand the feelings of others and judge the emotional impact before following through with her decision and after making the decision as well as while carrying through with it she needs to continually stay in tune with the emotional needs of the people who are been effected by her decision so that she may make adjustments to it so that everyone feels good about the decision so that it serves their needs.
   Feminine reasoning begins with getting in touch with the feelings of herself and others and understanding and weighing the emotional implications of any possible decision, it is having a clear enough understanding of this to be able to use emotions as a guide for determining the best possible solution which reasons out the different consequences so that a solution is formulated that addresses emotional concerns and creates an environment for personal wellbeing that is supported by logic and empirical fact. For a femon to act against the emotional wellbeing of anyone is illogical for her. For something to be logical it must be a confirmation of emotional and spiritual righteousness in which organization, goals and processes are brought in line to confirm, support and serve those qualities.
   By her, as a femon, following her own heart and allowing herself to trust in her own feelings she is most honest with herself and others and when she lives according to the needs of her heart and understands and is considerate of the emotional needs of others she can do no injustice to herself or others.
   Studies of the female brain have shown that there is greater communication between both hemispheres with more connecting axons*. When she performs any action, problem or has any experience, even solving logical mathematical problems, the electrodes placed on a womon's scull produce images that reveal* that more areas of her brain show up as being activated, centering, firstly on the emotional centers which provides constant communication to other areas of the brain. So, when she performs any act or solves any problem, even mathematical, she first asks herself how she feels about the situation, and as she performs the task and while she is doing it, she continues to ask herself how she feels about what she is doing with different parts of the brain sending messages of reinforcement and emotional support. Even when she tries to clear her mind of all thoughts and even when she is asleep, the female brain shows more red and pink areas* (heat areas which show activity) meaning that there is more internal communication with an almost constant activity of emotional centers. These brain activities are involuntary. This contrasts with the male brain.
   Studies have shown that baby girls recognize people's faces and respond to speech and expressions at an earlier age than do baby boys, and that girls need more affection, intimacy and security.

Beauty
Feminine beauty is not just skin deep, it is an expression of her heart and soul and is embodied in the conjugal symbiosis of her as a life giving, mammurturing being who empleasis in order to share the feelings of others and be a receptacle for that which she inspires so as to mammurture those feelings to give greater life to them.
Feminine beauty is the refinement of the delicacy and goodness of her inner qualities coming from her heart, soul and virtues that is expressed through the way she takes care of herself and the way she maintains her physical appearance and expresses her qualities through her looks, the way she moves, walks, talks, smiles, performs activities and the way she relates to others.
A truly beautiful femon's looks are the mirror through which she conveys her inner self, that she is beautiful because she has a beautiful heart and soul and has refined the symmetry of being, which means the harmonious integration of her inner qualities with her physical body and the way she relates to her environment and the way she treats others.
Feminine beauty is at its essence the embodiment of her as a life receiving and giving receptacle (fecepcigina) which is in harmonious tune with her environment and the feelings of others where she expresses her qualities in a way that is synchronized to or supportive of her world and relationships. With her, beauty is not just an appearance but it is the way she uses all of her qualities and what it means in nourishing herself as a gentle and delicate (moligenive) life giving and mammurturing femon. Beauty is the proper conjugal relationship between all with which she interacts by the proper expression and control of her relations with her environment and the proper receiving of behavior, or feedback from it so as to take into herself those things which would tend to nourish and increase her beauty as though impregnated by the finer spiritual qualities which she experiences and with which she communes so as to give birth to a more beautiful life for herself and others in her relationships.

Sexuality
There's no separating a femon's sexuality from all that she is and does. The conjugal symbiosis in which a femon lives in relation to others and her environment is a primary expression of feminine sexuality extended throughout her life experiences. This is essentially the extension of the same qualities of sexation and pregnancy and giving birth which are expressed in other ways. The fundamental sexual desire for a femon is to have life inside of her, to bring life into her so as to nourish it and give birth to life, ultimately to have a baby inside of her, but besides that, to have the living organ of a man inside of her, sexually she desires to have a man inside of her in the same fundamental way as having a baby and to have the living presence of a man in her life to whom she can relate, but also like a mother, to take care of and nourish their relationship together; with that relationship is cared for by her as she would her child.
   She exudes sexuality in being alluring and wanting to attract others to her which is directly sexual when related to men but is an expression of her identity in wanting to attract the feelings of other people to her so that she may conceive and give birth to meaningful relationships.
   Her alluring qualities give her a power to control that which desires to be close to her or over a man who desires her, so that she must establish a trust first and be able to harmonize her feelings for the object of her desire so that it is something good to be taken into herself and will result in something of nourishing quality.
   Sexually, she must always exude allurement so as to continually receive the desires of men which provides nourishment to her emotions and relationships. She must not assume the role of merely commanding a sexual action or taking on the role of being the breeder, she is the alluring, controlling receptacle (fecepcigina) that stimulates an action to be received into herself and controlled by herself so that she is the one who creates the true conjugal symbiosis of being in a symmetry of love and sexual expression and directing a symphony of emotional harmony.
   The expression of her sexuality in other ways which are not directly sexual that relate to her identity is found in the way she performs actions that express essentially the same desires. In the feminine expression of the arts, work or other actions she is still the inspiring, controlling receptacle (fecepcigina) that stimulates an action that is internalized within herself and given emotional value which is given back out and shared with others.
   In her life she stimulates powerful reactions which result in forces which impregnate in her the qualities of being that she harmonizes by controlling and changing those powerful forces into a sensitive and meaningful interaction that forms a delicate symbiosis which she nurtures into a creation of value which is given life and is shared with others and set in motion through her expression of beauty which is expressed extensively throughout that which she is a part.
   Obviously femin are naturally more sexual than men, her body, her whole being is a sexual embodiment and involves sexual expression, hormonal cycles and behaviors in relation to many other things. She has a multiplicity of sexuality in, firstly, the sexual relationship with men which is conjugal and her maternal sexual identity in the biological cycles and processes of menstruation and creating, mammurturing, giving birth and motherly caring. So these conjugal and maternal sexual psycho-emotional qualities are often carried into relationships and activities that have nothing to do with physical sexation yet involve expressions of those natural qualities which are a constant source of creativity and life nourishment for herself and others.

Social Roles
Femin are the emotional and moral leaders of the family and society. Femin must establish the moral standards in a relationship and for society. She must be assertive (pascertive) in being in control of that which she allows to be exposed to herself. There is a moral necessity of femin being the moral leaders in relationships. When a man and femon first go out together she must establish the clear bounds for what is and is not allowed and what she does and doesn't want, she must control where the relationship goes from the beginning, and at what pace, and what it means. She must set the bounds for what she will allow him to do physically and how far she will allow him to go. It she fails to do this or if the man is allowed to decide what to do and how soon, he will certainly want sexation right away as soon as they meet and as often as possible thereafter. If men are allowed to do whatever men feel like doing at any time, then femin will be reduced to mere play things that are used for men's own pleasure and then cast aside. Obviously, besides hurting individual femon it will lead to a licentious society with no moral standards whatsoever. Men will only behave responsibly and respect femin if femin show a responsible respect for herself first. She must continue being the emotional and relationship leader as their relationship grows, into marriage and always. In marriage she must be in control of how she is treated and how she allows him to make love to her, if she allows him to always do only what he wants with no regard for her emotional needs and other qualities of their relationship, then their relationship will soon degrade into a series of physical encounters.
   Just as she must be in control and lead in her personal relationships she must also by the same reason set the standards in society for how she expects to be treated by others. She must set the bounds for proper and improper behavior in public, in the workplace and in social groups as it relates to her and her rights. If femin fail to do this or men or irresponsible females are allowed to impose any behavior they wish, then femin will suffer constant insults, harassment and will be forced to put up with an environment that is hostile to her needs and rights and is a detriment to the family and society.
Relationships
With femon, the most important thing in any activity is how people get along together rather than the action of doing something. In whatever the pursuit, when people gather together for any reason, femin concentrate first of all and mostly on the relationships between the people. For her the activity itself is most important in how it develops the closeness and relationships of the people, to the degree that it does this successfully, femin value the activity. For a femin, it's not the performance or the task or the end goal that's important, it's how it all serves the emotions of the people involved in personal relationships.
   Feminine cooperation (femoperation) is not only working together and being supportive, it is an emotional symbiosis, a life exchange, it is sharing life supporting emotional qualities with others so that she may be receptive to that which is created by the interaction. Like a conjugal relationship, where there is an intimacy of personal feelings which she receives into her, as in sexation, which creates life in her as an emotional presence that she nourishes and gives birth to in her relationships, expressions and creations. It is a distinctly feminine quality.
   Femin are always matchmaking, they like pairing people and things up and developing the proper relations and associations between different people and things. They look to synthesize the appropriate match so as to harmonize the world.
   Social and personal roles are very important to femon to provide the clear confirmation of what each person means to each other so as to be supportive to one another in a way that everyone can trust and understand. In a relationship with a man she needs a clear definition of their relationship and what they mean to each other, if their relationship continues she seeks to clarify and move that relationship toward a more meaningful commitment, otherwise it will continue indefinitely as an undefined affair which she can't count on or expect anything beyond what they do physically when they're together. She needs clear roles so that she knows what she is giving to the relationship will be mutually appreciated and returned as a supporting and caring role to her so that they can understand that what they have together is building on what they do to create something even better for the future that will continually bring emotional returns.
   And while she needs clearly defined roles, femin don't like roles that are too restrictive, they like roles in which people may share or move into and through different roles while never losing the integrity of clearly established roles that define the relationship, and this true is in all relationships, not only familial but in the workplace and society at large.

Wife - Homemaker
Femin are at the center of the home and family. As the housewife is the heart of the family, she must be the leader in helping all members of the family to develop greater emotional intimacy. Through the efforts of the homakess a home is transformed into a sanctuary where the spiritual influence that a femon instills within the home she creates permeates the family environment that nourishes the souls of family members and guests. A man provides for her so that she is at liberty to live out her roles in maintaining the home as center of family life, not just a place for boarding a group of people who spend most of their time living and working for lifeless institutions. She is then able to take care of the home and family as a business, a sanctuary, a center of government, a school, culture and she can commit herself to always being there for all members of the family whenever they need her. Femin have a nesting instinct that is expressed in the natural desire to settle and live a peaceful and secure life and maintain an harmonious home. When little girls first start playing house and decorating and cleaning her playhouse she is expressing this natural desire. As she gets older and participates in the world and the marketplace, she must compromise in her ability to control her environment and must accept the insecurity of the world at large. However that's why as she does this her desire for settled security and a home only increases because of her imperative desire to nest and keep a home over which she has complete control to create the mammurturing environment to have her children. This is why homemaking is so important to a femon, because, unlike in the outside world, she can have total control over her home, to make it the most comfortable and secure of environments, where she can decorate her home in exactly the way that she wants, to express her feelings and create an external environment which mirrors and nourishes her feelings and allows her to share them with her husband, children and guests. A highly personal, emotional environment unlike any other. The decor of her home reflects different emotional qualities, the furniture which may be family heirlooms, the colors of a room, the placement of precious objects, pictures, dolls or other valuables creates an ambiance of emotional interaction.
For a femon, cleaning her house is an act of devotion to her creation, her home is like an extension of her body, and she takes great pride in keeping it clean and instills in her man and her children the respect for the home as though it were an extension of herself, because in a way it is.
Being a homemaker should also mean more than just the limits of the home, she has a responsibility to extend her homemaking role into community involvement by being active in her children's school and working with other mothers and homemakers to create a better community, marketplace, government, society and culture that serves the home and family and is conducive to its needs and, in particular, a society that respects, serves and helps femin who are homemakers and mothers.

Mother
Every good mother wants more than anything to be with her children as much as possible and to be home taking care of them if possible. Numerous scientific studies have shown that there is a physiological as well as a psychological-emotional need for mothers and new born babies to be together. Studies have shown that mothers who are at home with their babies recover physically from child birth more quickly than mothers who spend only a minor portion of the day with their babies. Studies have also confirmed that breast feeding is important to the mother as well as the child and that it actually helps mothers to physically recover from child birth more rapidly than in the absence of breast feeding. These studies confirm what people intuitively know and it shows that the psychological and emotional wellbeing of mother and child requires that they stay together during early childhood. Countless scientific studies have shown that children raised at home by their mothers are better adjusted, more successful, emotionally healthier and lead happier and more moral lives.
Many things that femin do throughout their lives are either in preparation of becoming a mother or in actual mothering whether it is caring for their own children or other children. Little girls naturally began playing at being a mother by caring for dolls and by taking care of the other children, this is a universal feminine behavior in all societies throughout human history. Feminine behavioral characteristics such as forming sharing, cooperative relationships in harmony with their environment is necessary to creating the proper familial environment for nurturing children and this is extended to the society at large in all of the activities in which femin participate.

Organizations
Femin don't like structured hierarchies because they segregate and compartmentalize people and their activities and are created and maintained by a competition against others for dominance, a strictly masculine pursuit. Of course this is an anathema to femininity which must have a complementary sharing of responsibilities that help each other to achieve success within a horizontal, circular group that never competes to beat down or beat out or exclude others and does not desire dominance but desires symbiotic cooperation.
The segregation of people and activities, even the separation of different tasks that the modern world, which has been created by the masculine mind has separated home from work, zoned shopping, business, entertainment, child care and other human activities which have naturally been integrated within or near the home, and has the effect of psychologically pulling femin apart so that she is unable to function effectively in a world that was designed to exclude her from participation.
Femin need organizations that are correspondingly communal in allowing people to integrate their roles and activities and share communications so that its members may work together by sometimes exchanging roles or moving into or out of different roles fluidly while performing integrated functions that relate to all of the things in her life. She needs to design her career so that her child and family remain at the center and that her work must be turned toward supporting the family and her personal life and not set apart to compete for lifeless institutions.

Business and Professions
In business femin seek to assimilate the workplace into an extension of the family by forming close relationships with co-workers and using business as a way to serve personal and familial values. For a femon, the first most important thing in any business contact is establishing a personal relationship based on trust and understanding, before investing her time and money in anything she needs to feel that she has an emotional investment with others whom she trusts and knows that their business together serves those values. With her, business is not a competition to beat out others, it is the opportunity to understand her clients or customer's needs and use her business to serve and emplease them as though they were a guest for a friend.
Also as a customer, she needs to feel that she has some emotional investment in the product or supplier.
   In business relations, she doesn't like to be passed over in favor of getting down to business, for her the personal relationship is the basis for business and she expects some attention to her, not for her own gratification, but so that she may open up personal communications to understand the other person better and form a trust that is the basis for her business relationships. Such as asking a femon about her children, if you know she has children, or in starting a conversation about how well the business for whom she works and various business associations are doing in creating and supporting the proper environment for femin and inquiring how you might better serve those interests and allow her establish the relationship trust and emotional roles that allows her to move forward.
   For the protection of femin's rights, non-Valenturian businesses should provide paid maternity leave that includes a period of several weeks before and after giving birth; as much as six months post-natal leave. Businesses should provide family leave of up to 10 weeks a year to take care of children or family members. Flex-time and work sharing are programs that are also beneficial to femin. Ideally, whenever possible, society and businesses should try to help femin to integrate work and home and as much as possible, and they should try to help femin to stay close to her children while working. This, ideally, would be working from her home or if this is not possible then there may be ways worked out where her children can be close to her work or in a day care center at her place of work where she can visit her children throughout the day. Valenturium guarantees the opportunity to all mothers of children under 18 to be a full time homemaker and mother and all Valenturian femin have made a commitment to do so.
   Femin don't internalize jobs and they don't like to draw their identity from their job or its functions. Femin want to be known and respected for herself personally and for her qualities, feelings and values. No matter what job she does, the doing of the job does not eclipse her personality or her identity as a femon, she does not tend to take on the characteristics of the stereotype of the typical worker in that job. For her, her identity as a femon, wife, mother, friend and other social roles are the only social identity that she wants.
   The most important thing in business and the workplace in general is that there will be no tolerance for the imposition of the idea or the behavior that business is a fight or a battle for anything or the imposition of aggressive behavior or training in the imposition of that belligerent rhetoric in regards to public business behavior, business is serving the customers as far as all participants are concerned and as that climate is maintained it is one that is acceptable to femin.

Politics
Femin use politics as a process of addressing emotional concerns to solve problems. They create policy to respond to emotional needs. It is important to understand the conditions in which people live and the emotional and psychological impact of policies and other decisions. For femon in politics, emotional concerns are a reason in themselves for enacting policy. The process of forming political policy has to do with getting in touch with the emotions of people and addressing their hopes, dreams, desires, fears and other concerns and creating policy to meet them. Policies are to strengthen relationships and serve as moral guides for society. She must be free to shape that policy while staying in tune with people's emotional needs and being able to make adjustments to them to help people to feel good about themselves, their families, their communities and their government which is an end goal in itself for the policies. When addressing specific problems, the emotional impact of any potential solution must be carefully considered and adjusted for those concerns.
This is totally different from the state's Machiavellian policies which use coercive force designed to manipulate the subjects to serve the interests of the rulers.
Femon can't function in a hierarchy formed by combative politics for dominance and power, this is men's government and may be kept strictly to men but as it has been imposed on general society it is a government of barbarians.
Femin want and need a peaceful consensual government that operates like a big family. There will be no tolerance for militarism, combative campaigns, mudslinging or the imposition of behaviors that make the political system aggressive or a competitive sport for dominance; legislation and other policies will not be fought over and the public good is not a battleground. This issues will be decided in a civilized manner that respects femin right to establish and interact in peaceful cooperative roles.
The government must be structured in a way that encourages open interaction and cooperation, not only between representatives and other government workers but with the people whom they serve. To a femon, the government is like an extension of the family. Whose purpose is the emotional, psychological and spiritual wellbeing of its members and like the family, its responsibility is in taking care of its members. For a femon, simply providing a peaceful and just society doesn't go far enough, they want the government to be a caretaker of the people and, they, like mothers seek to remove all dangers, problems and combative behavior from people's lives and address their programs to serving the emotional wellbeing of the people. While Libertarians may prefer a government that strictly protects individual rights and leaves everyone to live independently and sink or swim on their own, and while men may prefer a combative political system for dominance where conflict is used to solve problems, femin desire a government that will take care of them and allow them to take care of others.

Security
Femin must be assertive in standing up for their rights. Her rights are her own, no one may give them to her or take them away. Femin have a duty to help to uphold each other's rights and further the cause of feminine opportunity. They must resist and protest any association or institution that would undermine or threaten her rights or deny her opportunities, they must have the strength and courage to endure and overcome and be resilient enough to get through any adversity by rising above those who would drag her down into self destructive behaviors, which means rejecting all forms of violence.
   As femin seek a peaceful and harmonious life with others it is essential for her to enjoy the freedom to be feminine at all times. Femin totally reject any form of fighting or combative behavior, not only physically but emotionally and verbally, for a femon to engage in any type of fighting is self destructive and no goal that can be reached can compensate for what is lost. Femininity must exist with consistent integrity to be the constant harmonious source of goodness and virtue. For her to abandon her femininity at any time is to shatter that harmony that is a constant source of strength and goodness that must be upheld and maintained at all times.
   The constant belligerent speech in society that talks of fighting to achieve goals or settle issues is not only an intolerance against femin, it is an attack on femin, which femin must respond to her by rising above it and using her power to take everything that she does and all in which she participates to a level above the degradation of the barbarian society. A femon does this by totally rejecting the masculine-state engineered society and culture, or any combative environment, and only working cooperatively with others who respect her feminine identity to come together peacefully to find solutions to conflicts and that she will only work with those who respect her and wish to live in mutual peace and harmony.
   She must exercise her freedom and the control that she has over her life, property, activities and associations to be protective (matratective) of those areas of her life in which she controls and take them to a secure level where she can work together with civilized people to change the way the world functions so that it is possible to settle conflicts without fighting.
   All conflicts in society, government, business or other affairs must be dealt with in ways which allow participation by femin and respect her contributions in pacifemicating the situation and working with others to find solutions that prevent any type of violence, because fighting is a failure of social systems, it doesn't solve any problem but only makes things worse and it undermines the ability of a society to function in a civilized matter and find rational and just solutions to its problems.
   Aggression is not the way of a femon, it is against a femon's nature, and the imposition of aggressive behavior on her is morally wrong. A femon needs security to enjoy the freedom to be feminine and men have a duty to be patratective of her in all ways, particularly physically, but also to fight for her honor, the integrity of her social roles and to defend her against emotional harm. While femin seek men's patratection as an act of love and support for her, which is a moral obligation for men to perform who choose to be in any relationship or even casual associations in general society with femin, femin do not absolutely need a man's protection at all times to enjoy the liberty to be feminine. She can protect (matratect) herself by joining together with other femin to control her associations and activities which are kept within a secure environment where conflicts are pacfemicated, sources of violence are disarmed and an environment of concord is created.
   When a femon suffers a tragedy or loss, what she needs most is to share her feelings with others which is a healing process for her. There she can find the emotional support that allows her to go beyond her pain and at the same time receive the healing love and sympathy she needs and allows her to draw on a well of emotional strength within herself that allows her to be resilient through the adversity. Instead of being toughened and becoming hard and callused by it, she becomes even more deeply sensitive and caring which allows her to feel the love and empathy for others and at the same time to be open to receive the love that nourishes her heart and gives to her the ability to overcome the adversity and be a source of strength and support for others. Because in the sharing and doing for others she finds the strength to go beyond her own suffering. The worst thing she could do in that situation is to keep it inside and instead of sharing it, direct herself into the performance of a job or some action or the pursuit of some goal or revenge as an outlet or substitute for genuine emotional therapy.
   Feminine don't like to be called tough, that is an insult to her, tough means hard, callused, rough. To be toughened is to become hardened, callused and desensitized, A femon draws her strength from the softness and delicacy of her sensitivity and the depth of her feelings which should only increase by feeling, sharing emotion and overcoming adversity, to be toughened is to feel less and become less of a femin.

Policefemin
A natural feminist security service would much more sensitive and responsive to womin's and children's rights and issues. Femin must be able uphold and protect her rights herself by establishing clear bounds and standards of behavior that form the basis for how she wants to be treated in society. Her duties as a policefemon involve non-combative, peaceful pacifemication of conflicts and solving problems in society by being in the role of the Peacentria to encourage peaceful cooperation and resolution of conflicts and most importantly in her representing the embodiment of femin's rights and setting the moral standards for proper social behavior without using violence. She seeks and demands a peaceful society where femin are free from the imposition of aggressive, combative or other hostile environments being imposed on her and she is certainly not going to tolerate such an environment within the police that would undermine everything that she is trying to accomplish.
   A policefemon is the living embodiment of a peaceful servant of the public who, though is not put in directly threatening or violent confrontations, does put herself in situations where there is threatening and violent confrontations between others of which she is not a participant but is the one who is trying to resolve the conflict peacefully between those combatants who knowing that she herself is not a combatant but seeks to pacify those who would commit violence or other crimes. The importance of all policefemin being non-combatants who never carry any weapon is that while a suspect or people involved in violent or potentially violent conflict will see a policeman as a armed combatant who will use violent force to stop them, the policefemon will be viewed as a authority figure with the ability to protect herself and innocent people, but is not a combatant and will not use violence against anyone but will most importantly and first of all in any threatening situation to anyone, do her duty to protect and to secure innocent persons by removing them to a place of safety and providing for their care, and then opening up lines of communication between the combatant parties to pacify and resolve their conflict without resorting to further violence. And, of course, this requires that policemen do their duty in protecting femin and fighting for her and using violent force against those who would threaten her or innocent people so that she may do her duty and be free to maintain her identity and roles in society.
   Policefemin stand as a embodiment of femin's rights for other femin in formally setting the bounds of public behavior in relation to femin, how they should be treated and being ready to respond to femin's needs to help them in situations where they are being harassed, discriminated against or otherwise threatened. By the policefemon resolving conflicts and protecting people without using violence or in any way being seen as a combatant who uses force to get her way she will encourage respectful behavior toward other femon in society whose rights and lives will be better protected by the example that she sets and the message that she sends to the rest of society of what femin truly are and the respect that society owes to them.

Diensecuriot
In defending human rights in the face of militarism, tyranny, persecution and war which is mostly directed at innocent people with femin and children suffering most of all, there is a need for femin to have the power to protect the rights and lives of femin and children while serving the general cause of peace, freedom and justice. The duties of femin in the Diensecuriot, much like in the police, involve, establishing a clear identity as an authority figure who represents and upholds the rights of femin and protects their lives by serving in strictly non-combative, absolutely non-violent ways in which she strives to first, disarm and reduce through pacifemation the threat of widespread violence by reducing the size and threat of militarism or large scale persecution of human rights along with men. When crisis occur her duties involve working with men to diffuse the situation by pacification techniques by organizing and using the influence of all femin, not just femin in official duties, but civilian femin in communicating and using their influence on all of society, the economy and politics to put pressures on those forces that would resort to organized violence to settle an issue. By femin working together in asserting their rights and using their influence by organizing their communities and exercising their economic and social power they can have a major effect in turning the tide of organized political violence toward that of peaceful resolution.
   Femon in the Diensecuriot have a primary duty in identifying femon and children at risk, especially in war, chaos, political persecution or other crisis and helping to secure their safety by working to evacuate refugees or to get assurances that they will be protected. They will continue to concentrate on the welfare and rights of femin and children until they are truly liberated from the threat that exists. Of course to be effective in protecting femin's lives and rights, it is absolutely essential that no females engage in organized violence of any form as far as they in the Diensecuriot can prevent it. For any female to be a part of the military or participate in any war or persecution against femin and children it poses an even greater threat to femin's lives and rights because it undermines the integrity of the feminine identity and respect for femin that the Diensecuriot are trying to uphold by preventing the combatants from attacking innocent womin and children or involving them in the criminality of supporting the war effort that might make them a target.
   For femin to be able to do their duty requires men of honor and courage who will fight for femin and protect them at all times so that she may perform her duties and together we will serve each other and humanity.

Fashion
Fashion is the most personal of artistic expressions and is a direct embodiment of how a person sees oneself. Femin always like to look pretty and dress in feminine ways so as to synthesize her inner feelings with her outer appearance. With a femon, her clothing is most important in the way that it makes her feel about herself and how it makes other people feel. The one rule she should follow is, if she feels good about the way she looks and if it makes other people feel good too, then its right.
Of course, the most important thing is that the way she dresses should make her feel more feminine.    A femon dresses and grooms herself to express certain roles and emotions. She may dress in a very sexy way, obviously to attract a man, or just to express her sexuality without necessarily intending to attract a sexual response, but instead to attract a response that is pleasing and complementary. Primarily, this is her way of expressing her sexual roles and wanting to stimulate in men in general the desire to be responsive to her in a way that confirms men's interest and desire for her and inspires them to be gentlemanly and attentive. This may not mean a desire for any sexual advance at all. A femon who dresses in a very conservative way wants to present a pleasing appearance, shows herself as a lady and expresses her roles in a way that intends to attract a gentlemanly response in much the same way, but without the overt sexuality.
   Often, a femon will change her way of dressing at different times of the day which signifies her changing social and emotional roles as she moves from the dress of a homemaker, businessfemon to lover. Sometimes during a conversation a femon will change the way her hair falls; to the front, back or side or to fit her changing moods.
   Femon dress to brighten the lives of other people also, a femon that wears a ribbon on the back of her hair isn't doing it so she can look at it or even for others to see when talking to her face to face, but when she is seen walking down the street, this little touch of color may brighten the world a little bit for others.
   The essence of feminine dressing is expressing her inner feelings to attract a response that forms a symbiotic harmony with her environment and to interact with others according to her social and emotional roles as a femon and to attract desire and respect from men toward her.
   Femin are always decorating everything, whatever she comes in contact with she wants to decorate it, it's her way of marking her territory, not to establish dominance but to just the opposite, to expand her world through expression to communicate extensively to others beyond those with whom she is in contact; to share a little bit of beauty to brighten the world of others.

Complatition
Sports, business, arts, academics and other pursuits.
Since competition is another form other combative behavior that involves trying to beat down and beat out someone else, it is purely masculine and is an anathema to femin and is self destructive of her femininity. For a femon to excel she must perform in a way that is consistent to her wellbeing and improves herself in the doing; that is realized in the feminine form of excellatition, complatition, which involves a cooperative pursuit that pushes not only oneself and team to succeed but it also is designed to reward the participant by encouraging all sides to succeed by cooperating in helping each other to do their best in a way that fosters harmony and sensitivity by requiring everyone to be synchronized with each other's creative process that reinforces feminine virtues and ladylike behavior and develops her overall beauty, not only physical fitness but the beauty of mind and emotions and virtues which are exhibited in the symmetry of actions which extends from her through her team with other individuals and teams and those who participate or spectate.

by Dean Sullivan

* This I observed on the Discovery Channel program "Brain Sex".